Funeral or memorial services are also a means to share in the pain and express love for the deceased in order to heal. It is not necessary that a eulogy be a detailed summary of how the deceased person spent his life, but rather it can concentrate on particular positive situations or circumstances.
Some of the poems will make you and others around you cry because you can see them in each word or verse, this is also good as it helps with the grieving and healing process. Some of the best funeral poems only need to be read once for you to see your loved one in them, don't try to read too much into any one poem, you may just be forcing the verse into how others saw the deceased, the funeral poems should feel natural. Some funeral homes are small, family run establishments.
If you know the person very well and you would like to write it in your own words about that person, you could do that too. If you are a family member you might want to talk about his childhood. You should refer to the deceased person by name, using no other terms.
And it doesn't end after death. Writing a eulogy for someone you knew well and probably loved can be a difficult thing to do.